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The Adoptive Parent Primer

What you really need to know to get through the first chaotic 180 days:

The same baby who sleeps peacefully slumped over a rock in 96-degree sunshine during a Blue Angels Air Show will awaken from a deep slumber in the middle of the night if you drop the cap to your toothpaste.

You can not imagine the things you will extract, touch, sniff, sample, examine and discuss. You will do so without hesitation, and you will even save some of them. (I didn't believe it either.)

Babies produce an astounding amount of earwax. Most of it Cheetoh-colored.

Some days it's a marathon, some days it's a sprint, most days it's a marathon sprint.

Trust your instincts even more than you trust your best friend, your sister, your mother, or your mother-in-law.

Surprisingly often, you and your husband will have different instincts. Know that your baby has a good chance of developing normally, bonding appropriately, and eventually outgrowing colic, even if Baby misses a nap/sleeps too much/has an extra feeding/misses a feeding/is picked up too often/cries it out/sleeps in your room/ doesn't sleep in your room, or whatever you disagree about.

Make sure to ask your spouse "How was your day?" every day, even if right now you don't care about anything other than your Little Miracle. When LM discovers tantrums and seems a bit less miraculous, you'll be grateful that you kept your Big Miracle close.

No matter what you do, time will pass too quickly.

You will be your baby’s first true love.

Copyright 2007 Sally Bacchetta. All rights reserved.

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